Imagine you’re a young women, college age, maybe a bit older. You’re at a party and talking to a boy, someone you’ve known for a while. He’s attractive and charming and you know he has a thing for you. Meanwhile, you’re single, and well…you know what you’re thinking. You’re weighing your options. The way you see it, you can either hook up with this kid, or not.
But is it really that simple? Most will answer no. Some will answer yes and I envy them. Social stigmas don’t matter to them and they will do what they want. I think we all need to get to this place where we do what we want without judgement of ourselves or others.
But at this party, talking to this attractive charming boy, you’re thinking, what will happen? If I have sex with him, will people think I’m a slut? Will my roommates exchange knowing looks and off-hand remarks when I tell them I’m not coming back tonight? People at this party that know a tiny bit about my life, will they start rumors?
A boy in this situation never deals with any of these worries. If they’re sexually active with different people, they’re approved of by their peers, not shamed. We all know that double standard is alive and well in today’s society.
BUT IT SHOULDN’T BE! We’re all working toward gender equality right? So why judge a girl for having multiple sexual partners and not a boy? We’re all equals! We shouldn’t be putting each other down for our own personal choices. Most of the time we have no idea what is happening in these people’s lives or how these people are feeling. Let them do what they want because frankly its none of our business. I realize this is very ’67 summer of love philosophy and I’m definitely not saying we all need to have sex with a bunch of people because I know that does not work for everyone. The main goal here is to make whatever decisions we see fit and not be judged for them.
So, when you see a girl at a party flirting with a guy, do me a favor, remind yourself that we all need to do things that make us happy. If this situation makes that girl happy, why put her down for that?
Woman Writes 