It was August. It was pouring out. It was unseasonably cold. It was a Tuesday. That’s when I ended my going-on-three-years relationship with the love of my life.
My boyfriend that I met freshmen year of college. The boyfriend that I dumped my high school sweetheart for. The boyfriend that everyone was envious of. The one who helped me through every problem I had. The one who took me on dates and bought me little presents for no reason. The one that I couldn’t go one night without.
So why did I end our seemingly perfect relationship? The exact reasons I loved him so much…he was my rock. The one I leaned on and cried to. The one I completely forgot my independence for.
It took me a long time but I eventually saw the light. You can’t be with someone because you need them. You have to be with a person when you WANT them, but only NEED yourself.
This was not the case with me. I couldn’t complete simple tasks without him by my side. And of course I wanted him there; there was no point where he was oppressing me or telling me I couldn’t do something. It’s just I chose to rely on him for everything.
As a 21-year-old woman, I decided I needed time to figure out what exactly I wanted from life without another person to consider. I needed to prove to myself that I CAN be alone and be okay. That I AM strong and independent. That I don’t need another person to help define me.
Even though it’s an ending of a beautiful and loving chapter of my life, I still feel like it may not be the end. Timing is everything and sometimes not everything can work out like a fairy tale. But the thing about life is you never know what could happen. It’s not over until it’s over.